Happy Month of Love!

February — the month of love, love, and more love.

During my work, it’s been shown to me over and over again, how deeply we are affected by matters of the heart. Not only the romantic “Valentines Day” kind, but matters of the heart that are not easy to endure.

Like when someone you love says a harsh word, and you take it to heart. Or when a person close to you gets injured, and you feel so bad for them. Or when you’re grieving the loss of a partner, relative, or friend.

Sometimes the heartache is so great that you can feel it physically, as if your heart were literally about to break. And sometimes that can actually happen, like when people “die of a broken heart.”

Every one of our relationships is a matter of the heart, and those relationships are impacted by our interactions with others, which can also serve as a barometer of our selves — if we are willing to open our own hearts.

As most of my newsletter readers are aware, the job of our loved ones on the Other Side is to continue a relationship with us here, with their “hearts” open.

Often, the DPs (dead persons) tell me that they don’t want us to focus on negativity — past illnesses, for example; or woulda, coulda, shoulda-type stuff. Instead, they want us to go to the memory of happy times spent together — times when we hugged, and laughed, or maybe just hung out. Those memories are ours to hold in our open hearts, and keep the love alive.

So, do keep those loving moments close to your open heart. And remember that love is, and remains, the single most important mental, emotional, and spiritual aspect of life here on Planet Earth.

On another note, I feel I must say that I also appreciate expressions of love sent via Hallmark, etc. I think it’s wonderful that, for example, parents (especially mothers) give Valentine cards to their kids. Some sisters and brothers also use Valentine’s Day to express their love for each other. Whoever you love, you can say it with a card.

Many folks, I know, save those Valentines Day cards from years gone by. And going through that old chest or shoebox, looking at the cards your mom sent you way back when, can inspire some wonderful childhood memories, I am sure.

Now, I do recognize that Hallmark and other card companies likely make a significant profit on Valentine’s Day, but hey, it’s America, and it’s still a good thing. The card makers are providing a very worthwhile product, though their prices do seem to have gone up lately.

If buying a card doesn’t appeal to you, consider expressing your feelings the old fashion way — by making your own card.

Or get modern with a phone call, text, or email. Or even a personal visit. Whatever — Do express your love on Valentine’s Day.

As most of us know, gifts are also an appropriate way to show love on Valentine’s Day (and other times, of course), although exchanging gifts is not for every relationship. It all depends. You make the call!

Recently, I was reminded of a prayer that I had been called upon to include in one of my newsletters years ago. The prayer is about having an open heart. Hope you like it. Feel free to use this prayer, if the words suit you.

Mother and Father God in Spirit,

Help us remember that the jerk who cut us off in traffic last night is a single mother who worked nine hours that day and is rushing home to cook dinner, help with homework, do the laundry and spend a few precious moments with her children.

Help us to remember that the pierced, tattooed, disinterested young man who can’t make change correctly is a worried 19-year-old college student, balancing his apprehension over final exams with his fear of not getting his student loans for next semester.

Remind us that the scary looking bum, begging for money in the same spot every day (who really ought to get a job!) is a slave to addictions that we can only imagine in our worst nightmares.

Help us to remember that the old couple walking annoyingly slow through the store aisles and blocking our shopping progress are savoring this moment, knowing that, based on the biopsy report she got back last week, this will be the last year that they go shopping together.

Mother and Father God in Spirit, remind us each day that, of all the gifts you give us, the greatest gift is love. It is not enough to share that love with those we hold dear. Open our hearts not to just those who are close to us, but to all humanity. Let us be slow to judge and quick to forgive, show patience, empathy and love.

I think this prayer says it all!

Looking forward to seeing so many of you at my upcoming Spring events. I’m doing another wonderful fundraiser in April and returning to Club L.E.D. in March. Plus, don’t forget that this coming Monday, February 4th, I will be doing my monthly Blog Talk Radio show with my special guest, medium and soul gardener Austyn Wells. Immediately after the show – at 7:30 pm EST / 4:30 pm PST – I will be doing another LIVE Facebook event. Last month’s event was so well-received, I’m looking forward to connecting with more of you on Monday!

All my love to all of you, this Valentine’s Day season!

Happy New Year 2019!

Welcome to 2019!

As all of you who have followed my newsletter over the years realize, I begin the New Year by introducing the new “Universal Number.” For 2019, the Universal number is {{{{{drum roll}}}}} 3.

Calculating the number of the Universal Year in numerology is determined by adding together the digits of the current Calendar Year, and reducing the sum finally to a single digit. So, the Universal Energy for 2019 is: 2 + 0 + 1 + 9 = 12, and 1 + 2 = 3.

Remember, this is the Universal year. To get your personal year, you would add your day and month of birth to 2019. For example if you were born 4/19, add 4+19 to 2019 and you’d get an 8 personal year, as follows: 4+19+2019 = 35 and 3+5 = 8.

I’m sure there are many who are happy to be saying goodbye to 2018, which had its share of trials and tribulations, leaving many of us emotionally spent. Yes, there were lots of challenges on numerous levels for many folks. Those challenges occurred in various areas of our lives, and prevented some of us from being ourselves for a time.

Perhaps you were one of the folks who recognized a relationship you have outgrown, or discovered that a certain relationship was draining your energy and suffocating your spirit. If so, it was time to let go, and allow your soul to soar.

If you haven’t let go, consider whether now is the time. Look around. There are so many possibilities. Why not free yourself and let go of what no longer works for you? I would suggest that you take a breath and feel that new energy shift, the transition into a new vibration — a Universal 3.

The number 3 also is very significant in other ways, a few “3” examples: Mind, Body, and Spirit; Sun, Moon and Earth; Past, Present and Future; Life, Death and Rebirth; Hope, Charity and Faith.

I have always felt, and will always feel, the importance of energy which is what drives us to make important decisions, change our needs and wants, and determine what shall become more important in our lives going forward.

Knowing in our hearts what’s truly important is crucial. Meanwhile, know in the back of your mind that life can change on a dime. And if an unexpected difficult situation does arise, remember that this can be an opportunity for spiritual growth. Embrace the moment, if you can. Do your best, in any event. And remember of course, that Love is a constant that can help see you through.

So let’s welcome our new energetic year of 2019, and have a little fun. Because the number 3 is about creativity, communication, emotional sensitivity, expression, and socializing. In short, “FUN!” A time to allow our hearts to drive our endeavors, feel more passion, become creative, and infuse more play into our work.

As we venture into 2019, I am, as always, looking forward to seeing so many of you in my upcoming travels. I’ll be returning to Albany, Sturbridge, Fort Lauderdale, and Canyon Ranch in Lenox, MA in February. Some places I haven’t visited in a while are also part of my itinerary, including Las Vegas, Salt Lake City, and Seattle.

Also, speaking of events, be sure to join me on my monthly Blog Talk Radio show on Monday, January 7 at 6 pm EST / 3 pm PST. My guest this month will be astrologer Bill Attride. Bill joins me every January to share the astrological outlook for the New Year. Check out this link to listen to the show live on the 7th!

Bring in the New Year with a BANG! if that works for you. Or maybe just extend or accept and invitation to “Enjoy!” In any event, have some “Fun!”

The Holidays Are Here!

Holidays, Holidays, Holidays! Yes, I am repeating myself, but the reality is this: it is now THE Holiday Season.

And while this special Season of Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Years is usually designated as a time for enjoyment and fun, the holidays (and other special days) can also be difficult, as we who have lost loved ones — especially recently — recognize.

For many folks right now, especially in some of our most beautiful States hit by tragedy — for example, the California fires — events are taking their toll on many lives and families. Thankfully, there is an outpouring of Love from people who want to help.

I have always admired those volunteers who step up to help others in need. Performing “in the clutch,” as they say.

I am also very amazed at those who have so little in the material (Earthly) realm, yet who can nonetheless selflessly share what they do have. And in the process help themselves and others understand the human condition.

Which reminds me of our loved ones in Spirit, who are still our guiding lights.

Recently, there were so many heroic acts that I heard and read about, involving the recent tragedies. Some stories really touched my heart, two especially.

One: There was a woman who had given birth during the fires. She wasn’t able to leave the hospital immediately because she had a C-section. The woman entrusted her son, Lincoln, to a man to care for her son during the fires. (Her husband and two girls were away somewhere else, and safe.)

Once the woman got released from the hospital, she drove toward her house that had been burned to the ground. Along the way, she met the man who was caring for Lincoln. How’s that for a synchronicity?

Later, she drove by her property and thought to herself that she was a “blessed woman,” given all that she had experienced. How’s that for a positive attitude?

Another story I heard involved an elderly 90-year old lady who was trapped in her house. A nearby sanitation worker saw her, rescued her, and drove four hours to safety. He got to hear wonderful stories from her 90-years of life. I’m sure many of them involved Christmas.

And yes, Christmas is once again on the way. Most often, we will not remember the presents we received under the Christmas tree — twenty, thirty, fifty or however many years ago. But, I think most of us will remember those very special gifts — a new bicycle, a doll, or an air gun perhaps. Or for those really lucky folks, a special trip that the family saved for, took, and enjoyed.

Very special memories like those exist in your heart, and are there to stay. Reflect, and enjoy!

Here’s hoping you’ll be experiencing some very special moments this holiday season, more happy moments to remember.

And let me say here, in my last newsletter of 2018, that I am very Thankful for connecting with so many of you and your loved ones in Spirit. Something I plan to continue to do, and be so honored to do, in the future.

And, if I may also suggest, keep your hearts open to receive all the Love you attract and deserve. That philosophy extends not only to you, but to all of your loved ones here, there, and everywhere — including, of
course, to those on the Other Side.

And, as always, let us be thankful for what we do have.

My last event of the year with be with Thomas John. The event is called “ Home for the Holidays,” to be held in Sturbridge MA.

Have a warm, loving, and heartfelt holiday. Share that Love because there is so much GOOD to go around.

2018 – An 11/2 Year in Numerology

Happy New Year!

Welcome to 2018, an “11” New Year, because 2+0+1+8 = 11.

In numerology, we usually break down the year to one single digit which 2018 would be “2” since 11 (1+1) = 2. However, since in numerology, the master numbers are 11, 22, and 33, the 11 is not broken down into 2. Thus, we are now in an 11 year, not a 2 year!

Interesting to note that the last time we experienced a Universal 11 Year was not that long ago, in 2009 (when Barack Obama became President of the U.S.). However, the previous 11 year was 99 years before that, in 1910 (when Franklin Delano Roosevelt was elected to New York State Senate.) I think it’s safe to predict that 2018 will prove to be significant year for the entire planet.

Master numbers are very important for our learning and growth, and can bring major transformation and learning into our lives. This year, the world will be experiencing all that a Universal 11 has to offer.

Of course, in all of life’s journeys, there is always more than one element that affects us. Yes, we are in a new vibration, but we are equally experiencing new planetary configurations. Specifically, Saturn will be entering Capricorn whose ruler Pluto is currently also in Capricorn. Pluto in Capricorn is about death, ending, and beginnings. It’s about breaking down old outdated structures, which include governments, corporations, and religion. Capricorn is governed by Saturn which rules foundations, structures, and for many of us, our deepest fears. Although structures don’t change overnight, with Saturn in Capricorn there will be shifts in the world and our personal lives, caused by Saturn, the planet of all major changes. I don’t say that any of this will happen overnight, but changes will be will happening.

Those of you who know your astrological charts and/or numerical charts, realize that if you have planets in Capricorn, or planets that are affected by, or interplay with, Capricorn, then you will for sure feel/see/experience these shifts.

Sometimes the changes are sort of like a volcano – we know something is brewing, but we just don’t know when it’s going to erupt.

Change is often hard for most of us. However, for us to grow emotionally, spiritually, in directions that will benefit where or what we want or desire, change is often needed. The beautiful profound changes that could occur in 2018 may not happen without the Universe waving her magical wand, so to speak.

Think of all the aspects and changes in your life that have occurred in the past that would not have happened without that certain something coming out of the blue.

Remember that even dramatic “negative” changes like a loved one’s death, divorce, or the loss of a job or a home – all painful and dramatic – sometimes do trigger positive developments, like the end of suffering, meeting a new love, finding a more rewarding job or more time for ourselves, or even winding up in a better place to live.

Sometimes out-of-the blue events come on like a dam than can no longer hold back the water, and aspects of ourselves that were perhaps being held back end up bursting out. Trusting and having faith, and knowing that there is a reason why even “negative” events occur, will help you deal with the changes.

In any event, be prepared to welcome whatever 2018 brings your way, because the 11-year vibrations and planetary happenings may affect your life even in ways that you could not predict.

Returning to late 2017 for a moment, I have a Christmas story of my own to share – drum roll please! My last event of the year was in Sturbridge, Massachusetts with Thomas John. This was our second event in 2017 and we received a warm and wonderful Massachusetts’ welcoming. The event was in the evening and when I left it was warm but rainy. Since it was an evening, driving back to NY meant I wouldn’t get home until midnight when it was pitch black.

The next morning when I went to go shopping, I was shocked to discover a huge dent in the rear fender of my brand new car. Out of the blue, right? I had to breathe deep as I was a little freaked out. I decided to call the Publick House where Thomas John and I had done our event, to see if there were any security cameras that might have recorded whatever had happened in their parking lot the night before, or to see if anyone had reported hitting my car, or seeing my car get smashed in the parking lot (there was no note on the windshield). There were around 200 people at our event and many others having dinner there as well – it’s a pretty big place. I asked for the manager and he did call me back several hours later but there was nothing to report.

Soon, I started to look on the less ominous side of things – most notably, apparently no one was hurt. I called my insurance company and put in a collision claim for a hit and run. My body shop guy said it would cost at least $3,000 or $4,000 to repair. “Accept it, and try to let it go,” I told myself.

Then on Christmas Eve day, I was driving to see my mother who was in hospital, soon after her having to put her husband in a home on Thanksgiving. My phone rang and the caller I.D. indicated a Connecticut phone number that I didn’t recognize. I answered anyway. A woman on the other end greeted me and then asked, “What’s your license plate number?” I told her and she said, “I believe I hit your car.” She then added that she had put a note on my windshield explaining what had happened and saying to contact here, but she never heard back. (Apparently in the rain, the note had been washed away.) So she called the Public House and got my phone number. She then gave me all her info, adding that she wouldn’t want someone to do that to her car, and not make things right.

It was then that I realized that this was my best Christmas present for 2017 – and it came in out of the blue.

I say over and over that wherever I go, there are many wonderful people everywhere. Thank God for all the good folks in this world who do wonderful things. In my heart, I feel that this is what most of us are about.

After the phone call, I went on my way with a smile. The experience reminded me of what I had written in my Christmas newsletter about the movie “It’s A Wonderful Life,” which presents how each of us can make a big difference in other people’s lives. The phone call changed my mood and made the trip to seeing my mother in the hospital a whole lot easier (she’s okay, by the way, and her husband is doing well in the home). Just another example of things coming out of the blue, changing the road ahead, and happening for a reason.

Once again, extending my thoughts of love and blessings to everyone for a new 2018 vibration!

I look forward to seeing many of you in my upcoming travels again, or for the very first time. I’ll be in Florida, Toronto, Louisana, Michigan, Minnesota, and Missouri to name a few . . . and of course NY, MA and CT. Check out my website to see if I’ll be showing up near you.

Also, Bill Attride, a wonderful Astrologer, will be on my monthly Blog Talk Radio show on Monday, January 8 at 6 pm EST.

Happy New Year everyone!

It’s a Wonderful Life!

It’s a wonderful life!

I am sure most of you have either grown up with, or at least seen, the movie “It’s A Wonderful Life,” starring Jimmy Stewart. Directed by Frank Capra, the film was released in 1946 but is still a Christmas-time favorite on TV. I know all of you reading this who relate to angels, DP (dead person) experiences, dream visits, synchronicities, etc. can also relate to that movie.

The story is about George Bailey (Jimmy Stewart) who is in a dark mood and wishes that he was never born. An angel (Henry Travers) appears and arranges an alternate reality so that George can witness what life would have been like in his town if he were in fact never born. George observes the alternate reality and realizes all the good he has done, and how many lives he has helped, and how everything would have been very different in a negative way if he had never been born. He wants to go back to his real world, and manages to get there, feeling all the better.

What a wonderful reminder that we must take time to focus on the positive.

I’m also reminded of a quote from Maya Angelou: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Meeting so many of you throughout my travels has made my life more wonderful, and hearing George Bailey-type stories from many of you always warms my heart. Never lose sight of the fact that you make a difference in other people’s lives.

In last month’s newsletter, I talked about this with regard to the fires in Northern California and the hurricanes elsewhere. So many George Bailey-type folks stepped up to help others, and make a difference.

Recently, I was in the doctor’s office doing a routine check-up when one of the technicians came by. I did what I often do, and started a conversation. I learned in a very few minutes that the technician was from Haiti, and that after all these years in New York, she still didn’t like the cold but loved her job. The conversation went from that to how her grandmother would not go to sleep at night until they had a conversation.

The technician went on to say how she grew up in a mud house that her grandfather had built, and how all the family still goes there to carry on traditions, pass down stories, look at the sky, and take in the nature of the island. She stressed that every year she takes her children to her home village where they all engage in family traditions, and show their respect for elders and Nature.

I listened attentively, knowing that I had just shared a bonding moment with a kindred spirit. And like George Bailey, she recognized so many wonderful things about her family. Most impressively, she has been engaging in these family gatherings since she was three years old. That, my friends, is a gift.

As Christmas approaches, the little ones will be looking forward to their holiday gifts. But let us not forget that when the children grow up, and the toys are all but forgotten, what the kids-turned-adults will appreciate most are the happy moments shared with family and close friends, and the differences made in the lives of others – just like George Bailey during his wonderful life.

Looking forward to my last “Home for the Holiday” event in Sturbridge, MA with Thomas John on December 19th. Of course, I’ll also be gearing up for 2018 as well. There will be some new places to attend, and old places to revisit. Looking forward to meeting old and new friends along the way.

Wishing you the best Holiday Season ever. As my special gift to you this season, I’m offering a full hour of readings live on my December radio show! My special guest will be Austyn Wells, spiritual medium and soul gardener. The show will air on Monday, December 11 at 6 pm EST / 3 pm PST on Blog Talk Radio. I hope you will join us!

Love, Faith, and Lessons of the Soul

Happy Month of Love!

If you live in parts of the country where the weather is cold, you will welcome all the warmth of love coming your way in February! For, we know it’s all about Love, Love, Love, as recited so poetically by Lin-Manuel Miranda who was the winner of eleven Tony Awards for “Hamilton” (I still can’t get a ticket), and of the 2016 Pulitzer Prize. He also has two Oscar nominations for Best Animated Picture and Best Song for “How Far I’ll Go.” To be honest, for me it couldn’t be better said. He is a very “in-tune” man who has expressed the message of “Love, Love, Love,” over and over again, throughout all his work.

For most of my adult life, I have repeatedly heard from loved ones in spirit, as well as from those still here in the physical, how much Love means. The deep intense feeling we experience when we suffer the loss of someone close to us, and how their passing impacts our lives, has to do with the fact that we loved that person.

I realize that we all have to sometimes work hard to keep the faith through Love, and make it replace fear. Not always easy, but necessary for one’s soul growth.

Many of you have written to me about the current state of affairs on a spiritual basis. Firstly, I’m with Lin-Manuel, Love, Love, Love. It couldn’t be more important in these moments of tension and fear to keep Love as a focus. Again, I know how difficult that may be, but I am and will always be a firm believer that Love will always win out in the long run. We may not always see the results we desire, but please believe me, Love is what God, spirit, and soul learning is all about.

Most of you know by know now that I honor and have the greatest respect for Mother Earth. She who feeds us, shelters us, and offers escape via trails to follow; oceans, rivers, and lakes in which to swim; mountains to climb, etc., etc. In sum, it is Mother Earth who allows us to exist. She has a whole world to take care of, and she does it, tirelessly tending for us. Mother Earth is the ultimate nurturer and the example for women to follow as caretakers.

Men too! I have as well in my work experienced many wonderful men who take care of their loved ones – children, wives, mothers, sisters, etc. That is what nurturers do – lend a helping hand, especially during those overwhelming moments.

For Mother Earth, taking care of the land and the waters that support us, is a full-time job. I have for a long time known that trees communicate with each other and like us, have families and communities. Indeed, a well-known scientist studied trees in Nature for a twenty-five year period and learned that the trees actually communicate with each other underground. For example, if a certain type of tree needs a particular nutrient or more sun, the other trees will adjust to make it happen.

So, in response to those emails about fear of what may be coming, whatever it is, let me remind you of my book Everything Happens for a Reason. Love, free will, and lessons of the soul are paramount.

Through our love as nurturers, remember, Mother Earth needs us to do everything we can to help share her burden. Recycling is just but one small example. Each of us needs to do our part to make the world inhabitable for our children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, etc. who will inherit the Earth when we transition to the Other Side.

With regard to free will, remember, God helps those who help themselves. We have the free will to do the little things that are the big things that make a difference. This can be as simple and taking cloth bags to the market and not using plastic bags. In some cities, plastic bags come with a price (a hotly debated issue in NYC right now), which is a disincentive to using them. When I worked in Denmark, there were NO bags in the stores, period! The oceans will be very happy if less plastic ends up there.

Lessons of the soul. We don’t die, we continue. More precisely, although nobody here gets out alive, every soul does. And the love in our souls continues after we leave the body.

Still, our bodies are important in our souls’ purpose and for learning. And Earth – a tough but wonderful school – is the stage upon which are bodies perform.

Take care of Mother Earth, and she will better take care of you, now and perhaps in a future lifetime.

As we start the New Year. I look forward to connecting in Love on the journey in which we really are all connected. I’m doing many new events this year in places I haven’t done for awhile, to name a few: Somerset, New Jersey, Baltimore, Rochester, Minneapolis, Chicago, Seattle, and Portland, while returning to many others I love. Visit my calendar for a complete schedule.

Happy Valentines Day, my friends!

Tolerance, Gratitude, and What’s Really Important

Welcome to December 2016, the last month of the year!

Last month, we celebrated Thanksgiving, hopefully along with those in our lives whom we love and care for. Soon it will be time for Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Mawlid, and other special December events. Of course, this doesn’t mean we have to share the same beliefs with those who are present at the dinner table, but we should at least respect, and especially not ridicule, those relatives and friends who follow a different religion or spiritual path.

I have many friends in education, especially in NYC, “where the world lives,” (or so they say), who often share that a key issue encountered with their students is that the kids often disagree with one another, and get passionate about their beliefs. Good educators teach that there is no good reason to mock another’s belief system. Instead, effective educators teach kids to be kind to one another.

Naturally, learning begins at home. I truly admire parents who teach their children how to behave properly. I recently read an article by a mother who has two daughters – one is Chinese, and the other is a lesbian. The mother came from parents who taught her the importance of tolerance and respect for others. She was recently concerned that the differences between her children could cause problems. She nonetheless felt gratitude for being afforded the opportunity to live her life in this country. She is first generation and her parents instilled in her this gratitude.

For example, speaking up for someone who is weak and has been dissed by another is a kind and courageous thing to do. And I’m sure that I don’t have to remind you how bullying is a major problem. Standing up to bullies is not easy, but it can and should be done. Less difficult would be the simple act of thanking someone for holding open a door, which will elevate your and his or her spirits. Or helping an elderly person with those packages that she can hardly handle, given her struggles with the walker. This is what our end-of-the-year holidays are a reminder of – being kind.

I’m sure also that most of you realize how important it is to give at this time of the year, especially to those who are likely to receive little or nothing, unless you contribute. We all know how hard it is for children who are of lesser means to see other relatively “rich” children get so many more toys than they seem to need. See what you can do about that by helping a poor child in your neighborhood, and/or by contributing to a worthwhile charity that cares for children.

Also, think back. Do you really remember all the toys you got as a kid? Were those toys more important to you in the long run than the thoughts behind them? Do you agree that, as Maya Angelou once said, “I may not remember exactly what someone said, but I remember how they made me feel”?

We are all here together. We are not isolated. Every smile, action, and even thoughts can create a positive change in those with whom we interact.

Would each of us not give away all those lovely presents we have received over the years, to spend just one more holiday moment interacting here in the physical with a loved one who has already transitioned? To experience one more opportunity to feel their presence, hear them laugh, or even argue – just to be close again? Well, cheer up! Your departed loved ones ARE around you, especially at this time of the year. Open your hearts, relax, believe, and feel their presence. A toast of wine to them would also help.

This is what December is all about – a reminder of the things that are truly important – those moments of loving, connecting, and sharing happy memories that are ours forever. Treasure these moments – no one can take them away from you.

Everywhere I go in my line of work, so many faces I encounter, no matter where, over and over again, reveal a sense of loss of missing that special person who has crossed over. But please do remember this: those who have made their transition are in a better place.

Earth is a learning school. We are spirits having a human experience. When the experience is over here, we shed our costumes (bodies) and ascend to our natural spiritual state. What matters most is that we know in our hearts that regardless of how difficult it is to endure physical endings, Love goes on in the Spiritual, and that we will all be reunited with our loved ones eventually.

Our loved ones want us to know that, and to not lose sight of this perspective. They are doing fine. So enjoy life while you can, and as much as you can!

Remember, there is always something to be grateful for, even after Thanksgiving has passed. And although the loss of a loved one can be most difficult, we need to face the difficult fact that we can’t change what has occurred.

However, even if you are a skeptic, you can change your beliefs and thoughts to realize that Love goes on even after physical death. Once you recognize this reality, and feel it in your heart, you will join those of us who know beyond a shadow of a doubt that while the passing of a loved one is often very difficult to endure, and that the grief must be processed, we can deal with such a loss knowing that we will be reunited with our beloved DPs (dead persons) in the future. And meanwhile, they are here watching over us. Rest assured.

On another note . . . I’m often asked about the little things we can do, to help us and others enjoy the holiday season. Here are my suggestions:

  1. Hug those you love and those who need love. Thank them for being in your life.
  2. Make a list of those for whom you want to shop, and/or those you want to touch, during this season of kindness and Love. Remember that shopping for others need not involve elaborate gifts. Effective shopping can be for food that folks need, or for plants to cheer them up.
  3. Send out cards, with candle lighting announcements, to those you know will be touched by your efforts.
  4. Purchase and give candles to your family and friends to burn throughout the months, to remind them, if they are among those who need to be reminded, that Love is immortal. Let them celebrate the lives of those who we know are with us in the spiritual, even if we can’t see them.
  5. Prepare and mail out cards (or texts, or emails) to those who lost someone recently, and are in a state of grieving, while acknowledging their profound grief. Include a personal message, if you have something gentle and positive to say.
  6. Decorate your living space in a way that makes people smile when they enter. And if it suits you, make your home smell of nature, preferably with a plant still growing in the earth, instead of one that has been chopped down and separated from the earth.
  7. Redecorate your living space in honor of those DPs you love, if they loved decorating while here in the physical.
  8. Plan and carry out random acts of kindness – most importantly, in ways that your dear departed loved ones would most appreciate and admire.
  9. Call, or visit, those that you feel a connection to, and/or who may be lonely.
  10. Know always in your heart that your departed loved ones hear you and laugh with you in joy as you think positively of them during the holiday season.

Enjoy December! It’s one of the most special months of the year. Reflect on all the events, connections, and gifts of gratitude you have received in 2016. And be thankful.

And with regard to those experiences that were difficult, remember . . . we are like old-fashioned photographs, in that we develop from the negative.

True love is forever. From my heart to yours.

Signs, Connections, and Gratitude

Welcome to the month of giving Thanks!

There is not a day that goes by that I’m not thankful for our ability to connect to the spirit and energy, of Love.

Amazing too is how by just listening to your inner voice, or acting on a hunch or a feeling, we can open our hearts and minds to infinite possibilities. Let me share just one of those kinds of happenings, involving a person I had never met.

I was doing a radio event recently (a relatively rare occurrence nowadays, sadly, given the dynamics of the radio industry), in front of a live audience. Just before I am about to go on, the radio person who sponsored me for the event says that there is a guy in the audience who wasn’t sure but thought I might be dead! Yeah, that’s right. He came to this conclusion because he recently “saw” me with his deceased mom, while he was in the cemetery, and I was in my forties.

Well, this is what I call loaded material, scripted before I even walked out on the stage. I’m of course aware of the difference between receiving messages and interpreting them, so I knew that I had to be on my toes.

I walk out on stage, and, alluding to the story about the guy who said I was dead, I tell everyone that I’m quite sure I’m still alive and well. The guy who said I was dead steps up and sweetly and graciously proceeds to tell me that he took his mother to see me many years ago and that she had just died a month ago. He said that when he was visiting his mom’s grave, I popped into his head. From this, he had drawn the conclusion that I was deceased. He decided to Google me and found out that, on the very next day, I was going to be appearing just down the road from where he lives! I guess he should have realized at that point that I wasn’t dead, but sometimes, logic does not prevail.

It was pretty clear to me that his momma was connecting to him in the graveyard and getting him to come see me, although in a very roundabout way, which is often the case with messages from beyond. I have to say that this was, in some ways, very very funny, and yes, his momma did show up at the event with lots of other family members. And of course there were messages that came through me for him, and were very helpful.

Kids, you can’t make this stuff up! And right before Halloween! I guess that the veil between the two worlds was really rocking!

Now, with Halloween behind us, we are in the month of Thanksgiving. A difficult time for those who have had family members who were with them last year at this time, but who have crossed over in the interim, and will not be at the dinner table this Thanksgiving.

It’s during this time of year when that feeling of being alone can really hit hard – the first year after the loss of a loved one being the hardest, as I have so often said. Those who have lost someone near and dear during this past year may tend to feel especially despondent and isolated because that special someone isn’t around this Thanksgiving. But what we must always remember is that they ARE around, just not in the physical. Trust me, they are near you. Watch for those little signs. Trust our sixth sense and see how you recently departed loved one is making herself or himself known. Like I said before, listening to your inner voice, or acting on a hunch or a feeling, can open our hearts and minds to infinite possibilities.

I know it’s not easy, especially when your heart is broken. But take control. Open your hearts and minds and realize that your loved one is in a better place-a place we all are destined to ascend to eventually. Focus on this aspect of reality, recognize the Truth, and you will be able to heal your broken heart.

Now I realize that this is all easier said than done. Heartache is a deep emotion we all have to deal with sooner or later, and with the holidays coming, starting with Thanksgiving, even more so. That is why I most strongly suggest that you open up your hearts and minds, and recognize that, eventually, every soul must leave her or his body, and travel home.

Take time also to focus on others who are so much more in need. Perhaps you can become one of those wonderful volunteers who deliver food to the needy – or at least donate to that cause. But what may be even more important than food for those so down on their luck, believe it or not, is having a kind face acknowledge their presence, and wish them a happy holiday. Even better, if you can manage it, give that person in need a hug. We ALL need nurturing; no man or woman is an island.

And don’t forget your partner, or significant other, or friend, or wife or husband, whatever the term of the one you are closest with. Remember, family does NOT always mean blood. Connection is about Love, and we get it from so many different places.

So, if you are fortunate enough this year to be with all the family members who were around you last year, keep in mind those who have lost someone. Consider reaching out, and connecting with that person. The look in their eyes as you recognize their situation will be priceless.

And if you get a message about me while visiting the cemetery, like the guy on the radio show did, let me know!

And thinking of hope and thanks, I’ll be returning once again to Roanoke for Hope for the Holidays, with a stop off to ARE (Edgar Cayce’s Foundation) in Virginia Beach.

Warmly,
Suzane

P.S. Another suggestion . . . consider forgetting about your diet this Thanksgiving. I’m not saying overdo it, but, it is time to soak in all the festivities, so let yourself go, just a little.

Signs from the Animal Kingdom

“Who says silence is golden?” I ask, somewhat rhetorically, while sitting in “the quiet of Nature.” As I write, the birds are in rare form shouting, “Spring! Spring! Spring!” For me, this is much more pleasant than experiencing silence. I also love to hear the calm wind blowing through blooming branches, and the sounds of the squirrels and chipmunks scurrying. All those wonderful sounds of life signaling the renewal of Spring. The cycle begins again.

As we all know, humans can make wonderful sounds too, with their voices and/or musical instruments. To name just a few of my favorite compositions: Rite of Spring, The Lark Ascending, Flight of the Bumble Bee, The Four Seasons . . . They’re all wonderful works well worth listening to, again and again. Of course, there are so many pop songs that pay tribute to Spring, and connect Spring to Life and Love, that I dare not start listing them lest I never finish this newsletter!

As we are all so well aware, Life (but not Love) ends in death. Remember though that death is merely a transition to renewed life in another form. This is a positive aspect.

Another positive aspect of death, say of a loved one, is that the experience can lift us to a new level of understanding. I am always quite amazed how death and grief often force us to look within ourselves, which opens a door to discovering what is truly important.

There is and will always be one constant in our earthly lives, and in our lives after death, and that is Love. Love does not die. Love continues on both sides when our loved ones make their transition into the Spirit World.

As I’ve said many times before, it is our DPs’ (dead persons’) responsibility to let us know that they are OK on the Other Side. Likewise, it is our responsibility here on this plane to listen and open our hearts to allow our DPs’ messages to come through.

There are so many ways through which we are able to connect to our DPs – dreams, smells, feeling a presence, electric or electronic happenings, special letters and/or numbers on license plates that grab the eye and heart, billboard messages that resonate, etc.

In many indigenous cultures, animal spirits are key to making a connection to the Other Side. Dr. Steven Farmer, whom I had as a guest on my radio show, is an expert on animal spirits and indigenous traditions. During the show, he focused on the native Hawaiian culture; an excerpt follows.

As I mentioned, every culture has a slightly different take on this idea of animal spirit guides. From ancient Hawaiian spirituality, still alive today, comes the concept of aumakua – spirit guides clothed in the language, customs, and mythos of this culture.

Aumakua (ow-ma-koo-ah) are very simply the spirits of deceased ancestors. They can be called on for protection, guidance, and spiritual support. The very first aumakua were the children of humans who had mated with the Akua, or primary gods, the main ones being Ku (Koo), Kane (Kah-nay), Lono, and Kanaloa (Kah-nah-low-ah). When someone died, they went through a period of time where they stayed with these Akua and thereby acquired a degree of mana, or power. Eventually they could make themselves known to their descendants. One of the most prevalent ways they could make their appearance – although not limited to this – was through animals and animal spirits. They could also show up in the wind, rain, or lightning, or in your dreams. . .

Very soon after her father’s death, Ellen took a walk on the beach. She noticed a dolphin jumping along the water, much closer to shore than usual. She realized that this was her father’s spirit expressing through and in cooperation with the spirit of Dolphin, embodied in the one that was tracking her as she walked along the shore. Ellen was reassured that her father was just fine in the spirit world. His spirit had elicited Dolphin’s help in getting this message to his daughter. This was her aumakua.

(Read more: http://www.care2.com/greenliving/aumakua-familiars-and-spirit-animals-oh-my.html)

These wonderful animal spirit traditions exist to this day, but all we need to do is hang out with our doggie, kitty, bird, or whichever animal being(s) we are connected to, and listen! They will teach us much.

I will never forget the story about when the Tsunami hit Phuket, Thailand, all the elephants went to the high lands, and were saved. You can read about it here. The article discusses how we can learn much from the Nature and Animal kingdoms.

Let me close by reminding you of The Afterlife Conference I do each year, this time in May. The conference always ends with a water ceremony of one kind or another, which provides a wonderful closing to a very special weekend. Hope to see some of you there. I’ll also be appearing in Cromwell, Connecticut; at my special New York City “Mothers’ Day Event”; in Kansas City to which I’ll be returning after a few years; Chicago, and more!

Now . . . Time to get outside and play! It’s Spring! Enjoy!