It’s a Wonderful Life!

It’s a wonderful life!

I am sure most of you have either grown up with, or at least seen, the movie “It’s A Wonderful Life,” starring Jimmy Stewart. Directed by Frank Capra, the film was released in 1946 but is still a Christmas-time favorite on TV. I know all of you reading this who relate to angels, DP (dead person) experiences, dream visits, synchronicities, etc. can also relate to that movie.

The story is about George Bailey (Jimmy Stewart) who is in a dark mood and wishes that he was never born. An angel (Henry Travers) appears and arranges an alternate reality so that George can witness what life would have been like in his town if he were in fact never born. George observes the alternate reality and realizes all the good he has done, and how many lives he has helped, and how everything would have been very different in a negative way if he had never been born. He wants to go back to his real world, and manages to get there, feeling all the better.

What a wonderful reminder that we must take time to focus on the positive.

I’m also reminded of a quote from Maya Angelou: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Meeting so many of you throughout my travels has made my life more wonderful, and hearing George Bailey-type stories from many of you always warms my heart. Never lose sight of the fact that you make a difference in other people’s lives.

In last month’s newsletter, I talked about this with regard to the fires in Northern California and the hurricanes elsewhere. So many George Bailey-type folks stepped up to help others, and make a difference.

Recently, I was in the doctor’s office doing a routine check-up when one of the technicians came by. I did what I often do, and started a conversation. I learned in a very few minutes that the technician was from Haiti, and that after all these years in New York, she still didn’t like the cold but loved her job. The conversation went from that to how her grandmother would not go to sleep at night until they had a conversation.

The technician went on to say how she grew up in a mud house that her grandfather had built, and how all the family still goes there to carry on traditions, pass down stories, look at the sky, and take in the nature of the island. She stressed that every year she takes her children to her home village where they all engage in family traditions, and show their respect for elders and Nature.

I listened attentively, knowing that I had just shared a bonding moment with a kindred spirit. And like George Bailey, she recognized so many wonderful things about her family. Most impressively, she has been engaging in these family gatherings since she was three years old. That, my friends, is a gift.

As Christmas approaches, the little ones will be looking forward to their holiday gifts. But let us not forget that when the children grow up, and the toys are all but forgotten, what the kids-turned-adults will appreciate most are the happy moments shared with family and close friends, and the differences made in the lives of others – just like George Bailey during his wonderful life.

Looking forward to my last “Home for the Holiday” event in Sturbridge, MA with Thomas John on December 19th. Of course, I’ll also be gearing up for 2018 as well. There will be some new places to attend, and old places to revisit. Looking forward to meeting old and new friends along the way.

Wishing you the best Holiday Season ever. As my special gift to you this season, I’m offering a full hour of readings live on my December radio show! My special guest will be Austyn Wells, spiritual medium and soul gardener. The show will air on Monday, December 11 at 6 pm EST / 3 pm PST on Blog Talk Radio. I hope you will join us!

Pausing, Reflecting, and Moving Forward Into Fall

Hello! We are now, as they say, officially in the Fall Equinox which arrived on September 22, 4:02 PM EST.

Oddly, in the Northeast, the summer wasn’t as hot as usual and September felt more like August! We’ll have to see what the rest of Autumn has in store for us.

I do know this – tomatoes like it warm. In my garden, there was a challenge in that regard, but most everything else was fine. Except of course for the destruction of my cucumbers by a family of woodchucks. I’m sure there are many of you out there who can relate. I see you smiling because you know that story!

I have to pause and send prayers to all those impacted by Hurricane Maria if she in fact landed on your or your family’s or friends’ doorsteps. Goodness gracious! Living in NYC, there are many Puerto Rican folks who call NYC their home. My heart goes out to all of them, and their families and friends in Puerto Rico.

Given that Puerto Rico is, like many of the other islands – St. Thomas, St. John, St. Marten, etc. – so very beautiful, it is so very traumatic to see your native land destroyed. Again, I empathize with all those who have been affected by this tragedy, and all the other recent hurricanes. So many devastating storms this time around. Nothing in recent memory can compare.

However, again, as per my calling, I must reiterate: Remember that our loved ones in spirit had their own conflicts and challenges while here, and they faced all that. For many, facing up to those challenges made them stronger. We can learn from that.

Things can be replaced. People cannot. So when our loved ones cross over, there is no need to try and replace them.

And don’t forget that they are still here, there, and everywhere for us, for they have transcended death while transitioning to the Other Side. Connect with them through your dreams, feelings, and intuition. While no “body” here gets out alive (as Jim Morrison once sang), every soul DOES get out alive (Mr. Morrison missed that point). And, since we are spirits having a human experience, remember that death brings us back to our natural state. So, death ain’t nothing to worry about, even if our animal instincts tell us otherwise.

On another note, I was so warmly received recently in Atlanta and Asheville, such beautiful cities. Gotta love those Blue Ridge Mountains. Loved Tarrytown too – will certainly return!

I will mention again, and for as long as I have a voice – Love is, and will always be, our most prominent constant. No matter where I go, no matter what town, city, state, country, or continent, Love is, and always will be, what we all in one way or another know as the Truth in our hearts. Love is our greatest teacher, pervading all of our thoughts and feelings – consciously or subconsciously – throughout our daily lives.

To be sure, we all have different paths to walk, but if you are open to it, Love will be with you every step of the way. Connect to Love, and you will be the better for it.

And again, welcome to Fall, and all it’s glorious colors and changes. As is customary for me, I’ll be returning to California in October, up North and down South. Looking forward to seeing familiar faces once again, and of course I am totally open and happy to meeting and welcome new folks in my travels.

As the old saying goes, we will keep on keeping on!

How Hurricane Harvey, Lady Gaga, and Love Has Brought People Together

So . . . Are we feeling the “shortest” season fade away? No doubt that this summer was for many very challenging, especially for those impacted by Hurricane Harvey. Whether Harvey was a natural event as the mainstream media states, or a geoengineered event as some experts have found, our hearts and support go out to all those who ended this summer on such a tragic note – loss, loss, and more loss.

The Northeast had the coolest August in like, forever, but we’re not complaining here, since so many places are hurting and need all the love, positive thoughts, and whatever help we can send, in any way.

I personally know people in Houston, about whom I happily can say are okay. Others I know in Louisiana weren’t as lucky.

I’m still waiting for my friends and family on the West Coast to give an update of what is going on there, as I write this. A very difficult and painful time. How do we put it all back together?

Of course, our prayers go out in the hope that family members and friends made it out alive. But if not, we know that they were met by their loved ones on the Other Side. And, believe it or not, tragedies like this are always harder on the folks who survive.

When a tragedy like Harvey strikes, people band together. There are so many wonderful warm and giving folks who step up to the challenge. This moment was no exception.

I can’t tell you if it’s in the air or whatever, but . . . this is a very difficult time to live in. So many people with whom I have come in contact over the last several months have expressed just that.

My thoughts and words previously expressed in other newsletters and in my books, I shall repeat: In the BIG scheme of things, the one constant is Love. Hang on to Love, and it will help you through these very rough times.

Remember that our loved ones in spirit had their own conflicts and challenges while here, and they faced all that. For many, facing up to those challenges made them stronger. We can learn from that.

I am often told wonderful stories about grandparents, great grandparents, aunts and uncles, etc., who endured so much but kept going on. For many, it was the love of their family, and/or other loved ones, that helped them persist.

Things can be replaced. People cannot. So when our loved ones cross over, there is no need to try and replace them. They are there for us, on the Other Side. Connect with them through dreams, feelings, and intuition. As I indicate at my events, every soul gets out alive.

On another note, a quick sharing from one of my 2017 summer highlights. I saw Lady Gaga at Boston’s Fenway Park, the oldest major league baseball park in America. Needless to say, Lady Gaga filled Fenway. She is an amazing talent.

There were many moments that stuck me of her gift of giving every part of herself, but what I didn’t know initially was who “Joanna” was.

I had learned that Lady Gaga’s song to Joanna was a tribute, and when Lady Gaga opened up in song about who Joanna was, I could feel the connection. Joanna was her aunt, her dad’s sister who died when Lady Gaga was three years old. That event impacted her whole life since her father sort of smothered her (they are Italians) because he was so devastated by his sister’s loss. This somehow translated to fear of losing his daughter.

Lady Gaga’s story is one of many similar experiences reflecting how physical loss of a loved one can impact our lives. This was as true for her just it is true for so many of us who have walked a similar path.

However, what was wonderful to me was that Lady Gaga decided to, and did, share her experience with the audience, many of whom, I am sure, totally understood.

This is one thing an effective artist can do, but discussing the death of a loved one is not something many artists dare to share.

Kudos to you Lady Gaga! And as far as the music was concerned, I sat among so many wonderful people who had such a great time. We all did hoop and holler!

One gentleman near me was around 75 years old and wearing a red “Joanna Tour” tee-shirt from Cape Cod. Boy, was he a fan! He knew everything about Lady Gaga and it was he who told me who Joanna was before Lady Gaga shared her story on stage. And when she did share, it was at that moment she asked, “Can you feel all the love in this room?”

Yes! We did! A night I will always remember.

Enjoy the rest of what summer is left. Technically, Autumn doesn’t come until late September.

“All things come to an end,” they say, but never the one thing that is most important: Love.

As far as my Fall travels, I’ll be going to some new places and returning to favorites. I’ll be in Atlanta, Asheville, and Tarrytown this September, and California in October; specifically, Sacramento, LA, and San Diego.

Looking forward as always to seeing some of you for the first time, and others again.

Love Connects Us All!

It’s June! For many, a time to enjoy, directly or through others, a happy graduation! Time also to attend the prom! And, of course, celebrate “Father’s Day!”

For those of you remembering your father, or father figure, who has crossed over, celebrate in a way that makes sense to you and will resonate with him on the Other Side. Send a thought, light a candle, share a memory, raise a glass, and/or do whatever he might like to see you doing – and be as happy as you can. He will appreciate seeing you in a joyful mood.

Ah yes, June! Especially during this month, with Summer on the way, it’s fun, sweet, and so nice to see young people graduating, and attending proms. Nowadays things are a bit more unique, as two girls and/or two boys go to the prom together, as a couple!

Ah, young love, basking today in a moment that someday will be a wonderful memory.

Lately, I can’t help but notice so many young people experiencing what prior generations have experienced – losing friends so young. In the past, much of this tragedy had to do with war, and drugs. And now, for some, that is still the case. So sad that even with the progress we’ve made technologically, there are still cycles of tragedy and sadness that prevail in certain quarters. Very sorry about that.

Yet, there are others who are becoming involved with causes and dedications, and doing what they feel is deeply important, be it anti-war, pro-clean air, and/or or pro- human rights, etc. It is the young who will inherit the future, so let it be that they involve themselves, for they will take the reins eventually. I, for one, send them my blessings.

Remember that wherever we find ourselves now, metaphysically speaking, our souls chose to be here, present in this time in history, following the paths our souls – AKA, our higher selves – have chosen. Wherever we are, it is up to each individual to step up and face the soul’s chosen journey. Not an easy task. Planet Earth is a tough learning school. But it’s all about taking responsibility.

Yes, so many young people doing amazing things. And, of course, ultimately, it’s all about Love, which hopefully can be a light for those wandering through a dark tunnel.

On another note, for you lovers of the animal kingdom, here is a story taken from an article written by Laura Goldman, published in Care2Causes in April, 2017. (Original article published here.)

For 20 of the 21 years she’d been in captivity at SeaWorld San Diego, a polar bear named Szenja shared her enclosure with her best friend, another female bear named Snowflake.

After losing her appetite and energy, Szenja died “unexpectedly” on April 18, according to SeaWorld officials. But based on what had recently happened to Szenja, her death should hardly be considered “unexpected.”

[Previously] In late February, SeaWorld [had] transferred Snowflake to the Pittsburgh Zoo & PPG Aquarium in an effort to be bred. Many people urged Sea World not to separate the best friends. You just can’t separate best friends after a 20-year friendship.

Yes, animals and humans can, and do, die of a broken heart.

Another example of how relationships matter so very much, even in the animal kingdom. Let us not forget that we humans are animals, and that life can and does often change on a dime.

One thing that will never change is Love. And those memories that Love can inspire. No one can take those memories from you, no one. They are filed away in your heart, mind, and soul forever.

So much is going on for me lately, I can’t describe it all here, at this moment. Very much looking forward to seeing many of you at the Afterlife Conference in Portland. After that, I’ll be jetting to NJ, Baltimore, and Rochester. Very excited indeed.

Oh, and yes, don’t forget to smell the flowers! It’s June, after all.

Spring is Just Around the Corner!

Yay! Spring is just around the corner. The vernal equinox is due to arrive on March 20th, just three days after we get to celebrate St. Patrick’s Day. And celebrate we will!

So excited that Spring is on the way!

Spring of course means different things to different people, but one thing is for sure – we all feel in one way or another that Spring is a time of re-birth and new beginnings. A time that can put a smile on your face and a skip in your step, as Nature begins to turn a rich and luscious green. Also a time to wipe away those tears if you’ve endured the loss of a loved one over the winter, or during this past year.

After one of my recent events, a woman to whom I had delivered a message came up to me. It was clear that she needed a hug. No questions needed to be asked, nor statements made. As the tears rolled down her cheeks, she shared how this had been a very hard year for her. She lost not only her dad, but a dear friend, and her nephew as well. Her sister and daughter had attended the event with her and it was a very intense experience for all of them.

Interestingly, I find it not uncommon for families to suffer several losses in a row. When someone is just trying to deal with a passing, there is soon another one right after, or as was in this family’s case, three within a year.

The woman told me that her son was having a very hard time adjusting to his cousin’s passing in particular, and was pulling away from the family. She and I talked about it and how this was when the family needed to be there for him. Hugs would be good medicine.

One thing was for sure, the young man is very sensitive. And if there is one thing I can share that is critically important, it is that boys who are very sensitive have it much harder in this world, there being a certain macho expectancy of young men in our society.

Fortunately for this young man, his mother gets it, and has been very much there for him in letting him know how important family is. He recognizes their love for him and that they are there to help him through. Interestingly enough, the young man is also very close to his aunt, the mother of his deceased cousin. So, he is blessed to have not only a loving mom but also a very caring aunt and others to help him process his grief.

I have no doubt that after these three passings, the family will very much be looking forward to Spring and all its beauty. Fortunately, they live in a part of the country where Spring in always a joyous welcoming.

In the U.S., the overall population doesn’t deal very well with physical death, which is a reaction that is very different from so many other cultures I’ve encountered around the world.

None of the feelings of grief after losing a loved one come with a manual, and we all need to deal with and process grief in our own way. But dealing with death is part of the journey we all signed up for. Fortunately, I have been honored to be able to make things easier for so many by connecting those still here with their loved ones in Spirit, and sharing precious moments.

With Spring on her way, and anticipating those feelings of new birth, I am reminded that our loved ones want us more than anything to value our lives, and be happy. Of course there will be ups and downs, bitter and sweet moments, but it is all about the cycle of life. Our DPs want to remind us that they are literally there in Spirit when we take our walks, look at their photos, or just flash on a memory, maybe like the time we laughed so hard that we peed our pants. Most importantly, they want us to continue to feel the love we still share with them. It is all of these little things that are really SO BIG – fond memories and continuing enjoyment that no one can ever take away.

Recently, I was interviewed by a doctor who had been woken up during the night by her house lights flashing. She was sure it was her mom, who has crossed over, telling her to visit her niece who was in the hospital with terminal cancer. Although the doctor knew that her mother wanted her to go see her niece, she had second “logical” thoughts, and considered discussing the situation with others. Fortunately, she decided against consulting with anyone, feeling she would have been talked out of making the trip to the hospital. Instead, she followed her first impression – first impressions usually being a very reliable indicator when receiving messages from beyond.

The doctor went to the hospital and learned that her niece hadn’t eaten in a week, and that the staff felt she was on death’s door. Upon seeing her aunt arrive, the niece sat up in the bed, and ordered a mega meal for both of them. They ate, laughed, and joyously shared their bond of love. Later the aunt told me over and over that she was so glad she trusted the message she knew was coming from her mom on the Other Side.

And that my friends, is a memory the good doctor will treasure forever. It also serves as a reminder to listen to those messages that ring so true. If you’ve never done so, give it a try this Spring. And, of course, appreciate the blooming flowers, and watch how Mother Earth works her magic, and creates such awesome beauty. If you have the will and opportunity, plant those seeds of whatever it is you want to have grow. Take care of your project, and enjoy a most wonderful mystery of Nature.

Let me end by saying that I’ve got so many wonderful events coming up, from the West Coast, to the Midwest, to the East Coast. Please check my website for details. Looking forward to seeing all of you, be it for the first time, the tenth time, or whatever.

Tolerance, Gratitude, and What’s Really Important

Welcome to December 2016, the last month of the year!

Last month, we celebrated Thanksgiving, hopefully along with those in our lives whom we love and care for. Soon it will be time for Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Mawlid, and other special December events. Of course, this doesn’t mean we have to share the same beliefs with those who are present at the dinner table, but we should at least respect, and especially not ridicule, those relatives and friends who follow a different religion or spiritual path.

I have many friends in education, especially in NYC, “where the world lives,” (or so they say), who often share that a key issue encountered with their students is that the kids often disagree with one another, and get passionate about their beliefs. Good educators teach that there is no good reason to mock another’s belief system. Instead, effective educators teach kids to be kind to one another.

Naturally, learning begins at home. I truly admire parents who teach their children how to behave properly. I recently read an article by a mother who has two daughters – one is Chinese, and the other is a lesbian. The mother came from parents who taught her the importance of tolerance and respect for others. She was recently concerned that the differences between her children could cause problems. She nonetheless felt gratitude for being afforded the opportunity to live her life in this country. She is first generation and her parents instilled in her this gratitude.

For example, speaking up for someone who is weak and has been dissed by another is a kind and courageous thing to do. And I’m sure that I don’t have to remind you how bullying is a major problem. Standing up to bullies is not easy, but it can and should be done. Less difficult would be the simple act of thanking someone for holding open a door, which will elevate your and his or her spirits. Or helping an elderly person with those packages that she can hardly handle, given her struggles with the walker. This is what our end-of-the-year holidays are a reminder of – being kind.

I’m sure also that most of you realize how important it is to give at this time of the year, especially to those who are likely to receive little or nothing, unless you contribute. We all know how hard it is for children who are of lesser means to see other relatively “rich” children get so many more toys than they seem to need. See what you can do about that by helping a poor child in your neighborhood, and/or by contributing to a worthwhile charity that cares for children.

Also, think back. Do you really remember all the toys you got as a kid? Were those toys more important to you in the long run than the thoughts behind them? Do you agree that, as Maya Angelou once said, “I may not remember exactly what someone said, but I remember how they made me feel”?

We are all here together. We are not isolated. Every smile, action, and even thoughts can create a positive change in those with whom we interact.

Would each of us not give away all those lovely presents we have received over the years, to spend just one more holiday moment interacting here in the physical with a loved one who has already transitioned? To experience one more opportunity to feel their presence, hear them laugh, or even argue – just to be close again? Well, cheer up! Your departed loved ones ARE around you, especially at this time of the year. Open your hearts, relax, believe, and feel their presence. A toast of wine to them would also help.

This is what December is all about – a reminder of the things that are truly important – those moments of loving, connecting, and sharing happy memories that are ours forever. Treasure these moments – no one can take them away from you.

Everywhere I go in my line of work, so many faces I encounter, no matter where, over and over again, reveal a sense of loss of missing that special person who has crossed over. But please do remember this: those who have made their transition are in a better place.

Earth is a learning school. We are spirits having a human experience. When the experience is over here, we shed our costumes (bodies) and ascend to our natural spiritual state. What matters most is that we know in our hearts that regardless of how difficult it is to endure physical endings, Love goes on in the Spiritual, and that we will all be reunited with our loved ones eventually.

Our loved ones want us to know that, and to not lose sight of this perspective. They are doing fine. So enjoy life while you can, and as much as you can!

Remember, there is always something to be grateful for, even after Thanksgiving has passed. And although the loss of a loved one can be most difficult, we need to face the difficult fact that we can’t change what has occurred.

However, even if you are a skeptic, you can change your beliefs and thoughts to realize that Love goes on even after physical death. Once you recognize this reality, and feel it in your heart, you will join those of us who know beyond a shadow of a doubt that while the passing of a loved one is often very difficult to endure, and that the grief must be processed, we can deal with such a loss knowing that we will be reunited with our beloved DPs (dead persons) in the future. And meanwhile, they are here watching over us. Rest assured.

On another note . . . I’m often asked about the little things we can do, to help us and others enjoy the holiday season. Here are my suggestions:

  1. Hug those you love and those who need love. Thank them for being in your life.
  2. Make a list of those for whom you want to shop, and/or those you want to touch, during this season of kindness and Love. Remember that shopping for others need not involve elaborate gifts. Effective shopping can be for food that folks need, or for plants to cheer them up.
  3. Send out cards, with candle lighting announcements, to those you know will be touched by your efforts.
  4. Purchase and give candles to your family and friends to burn throughout the months, to remind them, if they are among those who need to be reminded, that Love is immortal. Let them celebrate the lives of those who we know are with us in the spiritual, even if we can’t see them.
  5. Prepare and mail out cards (or texts, or emails) to those who lost someone recently, and are in a state of grieving, while acknowledging their profound grief. Include a personal message, if you have something gentle and positive to say.
  6. Decorate your living space in a way that makes people smile when they enter. And if it suits you, make your home smell of nature, preferably with a plant still growing in the earth, instead of one that has been chopped down and separated from the earth.
  7. Redecorate your living space in honor of those DPs you love, if they loved decorating while here in the physical.
  8. Plan and carry out random acts of kindness – most importantly, in ways that your dear departed loved ones would most appreciate and admire.
  9. Call, or visit, those that you feel a connection to, and/or who may be lonely.
  10. Know always in your heart that your departed loved ones hear you and laugh with you in joy as you think positively of them during the holiday season.

Enjoy December! It’s one of the most special months of the year. Reflect on all the events, connections, and gifts of gratitude you have received in 2016. And be thankful.

And with regard to those experiences that were difficult, remember . . . we are like old-fashioned photographs, in that we develop from the negative.

True love is forever. From my heart to yours.

The Special Bond of Fathers and Children

Welcome to June, and of course, the upcoming Vernal Equinox which arrives June 20th.

During the Vernal Equinox, day and night are each approximately 12 hours long (with the actual time of equal day and night, in the Northern Hemisphere, occurring a few days before). The sun crosses the celestial equator going northward, rises exactly due east, and sets exactly due west.

For all you season lovers, and especially those who are longing for summer – well . . . it’s coming up and you’re going to hit the jackpot. A wonderful time for graduations, weddings, and for me always, a very personal Father’s Day.

As I always say, one of the most special privileges I have in doing the work I do is connecting with people’s departed loved ones. Recently, I was doing a session where a young mother had just lost her father. Her having a newborn daughter actually added to the woman’s missing her dad, for she was feeling that he wouldn’t be around to see his granddaughter. Of course, we know that “Grandpa” will be around – although not in the physical way that his daughter would want him to be. I remember her words in describing her father and they stuck with me. I found them in one way to be very profound in the energy they carried, and in another way the perfect description of what a father means to so many of us. She said, in a very special way, “He was the salt of the earth!” When she spoke these words, I “breathed” them in and felt how wonderful this young woman’s childhood had been with her dad, and how that magnificent experience will be in her heart and soul throughout her life, and after. Although she is sad that her dad has passed over to the Other Side, it is so beautiful that she experienced the love of such a man, and grew up being “Daddy’s Girl.”

I will tell you that in my many travels, connecting with people all over the world, and beyond, there are some pretty wonderful dads out there who have been just as special. Another example: I was just recently doing my Mother’s Day show, and there was a woman there who made a comment: “Why don’t you do a ‘Father’s Day’ show?” Not a bad idea! But . . . there were many chuckles in the room, even among the DJs – I guess because the work I do is not as appreciated among the males of the species as it is among the females. But honestly, truth be told, there are many dads, brothers, sons, and boyfriends – guys – who get it! And even if they don’t get it, they have worked tirelessly and endlessly to make sure that their moms, sisters, girlfriends and daughters, are provided with evidence of Love. That is, these guys have been “taking care” of their gals in the best ways that they can. And so, at the event, I gave everyone an opportunity to “shout out” how much every dad was appreciated.

Fathers and mothers – where would we be without them?

And of course there is Mother Earth, whom I always honor, even on Father’s Day. For it is she who feeds, clothes, and houses us . . . together with Father Sun beaming down upon us, making this Planet Earth of ours . . . inhabitable.

I would like to personally pay tribute to all those organizations and everyday citizens who are devoted to taking care of Mother Earth. I speak for the many who were so hopeful after the G12 conference in Paris, with people from all over the world coming together and making a pact to do the right thing in lowering greenhouse gases, and whatever else needs to be done in those places facing drought or other scarcities.

In this vein, let me share that I was recently watching a documentary about Kansas farmers whose farm had been in the family for five generations. The current owners, young sons and daughters, know that unless there is a change in the water situation, they will no longer be able to provide for their families. The crisis goes on in so many areas. I could relate. During a recent visit to KC, I had a few in-depth conversations with the folks there about water. I know what that Kansas family is facing.

Water isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity for all living things. I know water is a “cause” for many, and especially for folks who live in arid parts of the world. For they are facing extreme challenges.

From wherever you are, do all you can do personally, and in your morning and/or evening prayers, don’t forget Mother Earth, especially on Father’s Day.

Please allow me to conclude this month’s newsletter with a GREAT BIG “THANK YOU” to Terri Daniel for yet another wonderful Afterlife Conference. I can’t begin to share all of the inspiring words that I heard throughout the event, many of which were spoken to me personally. The conference was so very important for so many. It was my honor to have participated. If you are wondering whether you should attend next year, don’t worry. Just go! You won’t be sorry.

Oh . . . at the conference, a woman from Canada came up to me and said that she would not have known about the conference if I hadn’t mentioned it in my newsletter. So glad to hear that! She had a great time. Maybe next time, that will be you! Next year the event will be in Portland. I will remind you.

As I write this newsletter, it’s that kind of day here in the Northeast where if you’re near the ocean, lake, pond or pool . . . jump in!

Have a happy June! Enjoy your fun in the sun and Father’s Day celebrations – even if your dad is on the Other Side. He will be watching over you. Guaranteed!

Please check my calendar for my upcoming summer events. I’ll keep you all posted! Meanwhile, for those of you in Baltimore, since I didn’t make it to you this past December, I’ll be doing a Saturday afternoon event June 18th. Again, please check my calendar for details.

The Merry Month of May!

Happy Month of May! Most of you know that this is my favorite month of the year. Not because it’s my birth-month, but because in May, one can really feel that Spring has arrived.

I think it’s no coincidence that Mother’s Day comes in May, since May truly signifies the birth of Spring.

Needless to say, mothers are very important to us all, often THE most important person in our lives. Whether your relationship with mom is/was good, not so good, or really, really, really not good, it is still a key relationship. In one way or another, your relationship with mom will impact your entire life, and many, if not all, of your interpersonal relationships.

My friend Jane is always saying how she thanks her mother for all she’s learned, even though they have shared a very difficult relationship. There is wisdom in that perspective. We should all be thankful for the challenges we endure because, like old-fashioned photographs, we develop from the negative.

I recently had a wonderful session in which a young lady (let’s call her Mary, not her real name) came to me because she was receiving messages from her deceased mom and wanted to see if I could validate what was happening. What I got was that this was one wonderful mother who shared a rare honestly with her children.

There was a beach house that had been passed down from Mary’s grandparents who had borrowed money so that the family would be able to enjoy their summers together. Mary’s mother then passed the beach house to her and sisters but purposefully left out one sister who the mother knew would, because of her personality, create immeasurable problems in the family. Also excluded from the will was Mary’s only brother who was/is a gambler and drinker.

This was a mother who not only knew her children well but had the courage to make sure that the sharing of the beach house, which has now been in the family for generations, would remain a place of enjoyment. I don’t have to tell you how expensive beach property is, and nowadays buying one would be beyond the economic capacity of this extended family to purchase. I am sure Mary’s mom went through much soul searching before deciding to exclude two of her own children from her will for the sake of those that would continue to keep the beach house special, and free of acrimony.

During the session, as I sat there feeling how amazing a woman Mary’s mother was/is, I could not help but focus on the courage it took to exclude two of her own children from her last will and testament. More often than not, in my work, I often see how issues like this are often ignored, and then all the unfinished business causes chaos and splits families apart.

I’ve said it before and will share it a thousand times more – For those of us fortunate enough to possess some material wealth, there are three things we need to have:

  1. A will. It’s not only about money and property but also about your wishes regarding how you feel things should proceed after you transition. Be wise in whom you name as executor of your will. This should be someone you can trust to honor your wishes.
  2. Health proxy. Many of us know, or have at least heard about, the nightmare of not having someone appointed to make major decisions when a loved one is in a coma or on life support. Make sure you designate some who is NOT weak of heart. This needs to be someone who will, no matter what, follow your wishes, for example, with a DNR (do not resuscitate).
  3. Power of attorney. Again, if for some reason you cannot or are unable to make a decision while you are still alive, make sure you appoint someone who will carry out your expressed wishes. If finances are involved, give them the authority to pay your bills, etc. Often this will be the same person you name as the executor of your will, so when the time comes, that person will be familiar with your wishes and economic condition.

Although I connect freely with the Other Side, my work is about the living, as I’ve noted so many times before. For it is we who are left here on Earth, until our time comes, who must process our grief, and figure out how to move on after a loved one crosses over. It’s a challenge! And a time for soul growth. Of course, this may be especially tough for those of you who, this month, will celebrate your first Mother’s Day without your mom. But one thing you can be sure of this: she will be around. Watch for the signs, and trust what you feel and experience. Love never dies, especially a mother’s love.

So, in sum, on this coming Mother’s Day, make sure to celebrate all the mother figures in your life, whether they are alive or crossed over, and whether they are your natural born mothers or someone who has given you that motherly nurturing and loving. This of course includes grandmothers and great grandmothers, etc! Oh, and a reminder for all you husbands out there whose wives are moms-let your wife know how happy you are to be the father (or step-father) of her child or children. Make her feel special because, after all, she is!

One final reminder – never, never, never leave out Mother Earth from your Mother’s Day remembrances. She is the grandest mother of them all, the one who feeds us, houses us, clothes us, and allows us to breathe – while providing so much beauty in the world.

Please note that I will be doing two Mother’s Day events this year. I’m returning to WXLO in Worcester, MA for my 11th year on Friday, May 6, and I will be doing a very special Mother’s Day event in my own city, New York, with fellow medium Thomas John. I’m very excited about both. And, of course, I will again be at the Afterlife Conference in St. Louis on May 12 – 15. I’m so excited to be returning to Kansas City; I’ve been away too long.

Have a marvelous May. I’m so looking forward as always to connecting, spending time, and seeing so many of you again in my travels. As always, new friends are also most welcome!

Deep Thoughts for Spring

Welcome to the advent of Spring! The Spring Equinox arrives March 19th.

Most folks, myself included, love the beginning of Spring! “Bring it on,” as they say. It’s time to plant seeds, literally. And, metaphorically, it’s time to plant “seeds” to bring about the needed changes in our lives – mentally, emotionally, physically and of course spiritually, the core of our being and soul.

March, of course, is filled with many fun holidays, including one of my favorites, St. Paddy’s Day. And for the more religious among us, Purim, Palm Sunday, Good Friday and Easter . . . Whew! Quite extraordinary.

Just recently, a colleague of mine experienced something quite extraordinary, but in a negative way. A neighbor shot her kitty cat, wounding the animal seriously.

While there are many ways to handle painful situations, the rules change a bit if one is a spiritual counselor, as is my colleague. There are do’s and don’t’s.

Of course, we all have experienced the impulse to respond – as they say in the Old Testament – with an eye for an eye. Especially when someone in our family has been hurt. And, as we know, our furry companions are our family!

But that is not the way to go for anyone, especially a spiritual counselor. For we are all part of God. My colleague was of course angry and expressed that to the neighbor but took no steps of revenge, knowing, of course, that, “Karma is a bitch!”

We are all accountable for our actions, period. The person who shot the kitty will be held responsible, at some point, and pay a price. On a brighter note, although the kitty had to have his leg removed, he will in time heal, especially since he is surrounded by a loving family.

Of course, it would be a less joyful world without our furry companions. They are part of the ecological cycle and make the world a more precious, warm, and loving place to live and share. Be clear, that those who honor Mother Earth, also honor the creatures with whom we share this blessed space.

On another note, I recently received an email from a family I saw several years ago in Toronto . . . after my TV show The Afterlife was aired on OutTV in Canada. I remember, it was a very intense session, so much so that I wrote about it in my newsletter. It was wonderful to hear from them again, and learn that their transgender son’s passing did and continues to bring the family closer together in a way they hadn’t been prior to his crossing over to the Other Side.

It had been a heartwarming experience for me to serve as medium for this family, and I can’t help but note how things have changed here in the U.S.A. regarding transgender people. Most of us have moved on from total shock toward an acceptance of the differences among us. The hit TV show Transgender, and the movie The Danish Girl, helped spur things along. And then of course, there’s the story of Caitlyn Jenner.

Reflecting on all this, I recall how honored I felt to be chosen by this family which felt that I would be particularly sensitive to the issues at hand, and that I wouldn’t judge their transgender child who had committed suicide. Thankfully, I was able to convey all the feelings and thoughts that this family so needed to hear and know, from their loved one on the Other Side. Specifically, how the child felt incapable of being who he was, and how he felt to have taken his own life.

Thinking about this family, and knowing what they went through, and realizing that they can still love and forgive, and keep their hearts open, is an inspiration. How wonderful that they can continue to share the experiences their son, who became a daughter, taught them.

Now my friends, I know this is Spring, and that this is not one of my usual light Spring topics. However, I felt that I would be doing a disservice to all those parents and children who have gone through either one of these “taboos,” if I didn’t relay this story. I trust you will understand.

On a related note, hearing Jeffery Tambor speak, after winning the Emmy for his performance as a transgender person, about the greatest blessing he’s ever experienced playing that part, warmed my heart. The world is changing. But the bottom line is, we all want the same things in life, including someone to love.

And we all want warmer weather. So, in the spirit of Spring, remember . . . it is a new beginning for all. Let us head the words of the master, Jesus: “Judge not.” For we are all a part of God. All of our children are and will continue to be part of God. And yes, we will all be met by God and all our deceased loved ones when it is our time to cross over.

But in the meantime, come on! Everyone! Get ready! Soon it will be time to stop hibernating! Lose those coats, jump up and down and watch as the flowers begin to bloom. The breath of Spring is upon us!

Looking forward to sharing some spring fever with many of you!!!!! Check out my calendar for when I may be coming your way!

Matters of the Heart

Welcome to the month of the heart, February! A special thanks to St. Valentine.

It’s been shown to me over and over again, how deeply we are all affected by matters of the heart. When a loved one crosses over, our physical heart’s can actually experience pain. Hence the phrase, “a broken heart.” From my work, I have learned that “matters of the heart” are so very important, not only to us here in the physical, but to our loved ones on the Other Side as well.

My work is about the living. Our loved ones who have crossed over are fine and want very much for us to know that they are well. Why? Because they LOVE us.

Connecting with our loved ones in Spirit helps us experience their continuing love for us. Their focus in letting us know that they are fine on the Other Side is about their love for us. Matters of the heart continue on the Other Side.

Our hearts will ache when we lose a loved one, and we need to process the grief. There is no magic wand to eliminate that journey. We can’t flippantly dismiss the event. It is a path we all must walk.

What I get so often from loved ones in Spirit is that they want us to remember the good times spent together – when we laugh, hugged, or just hung out enjoying each other’s company. Those memories are ours to keep and no one can take them away.

So many DPs (dead persons) tell me that they do NOT want us to focus on the illness that took their life, or feel guilty that we didn’t do enough for them, or be sad if we were not there at the time of their death. If you were not there at your loved one’s passing, it was their choice that things end that way, a choice God gives to all of us.

Another thing that God gives us is the power to enjoy. And love. So enjoy life! And love. Treasure all matters of the heart, the warm loving times, the tender moments, the memories that make you smile, and the one that are so funny that remembering them makes you pee your pants.

Love is and remains the single most significant mental, emotional, spiritual and physical state that we all have. Without it, we would not be human.

One thing I love is when mothers give Valentine cards not only to the fathers of their children, but also to their sons and daughters. I bet that many of you would enjoy going through that old chest of memories your mom has kept and find, amongst other things, the Valentine’s Day cards she has received from you and others over the years.

Another of my favorite things is to travel and connect or reconnect with you wonderful folks. My heart sings when I focus on this aspect of my work. It’s always been something that has been special for me.

Speaking of connecting, I look forward to returning to Florida this month. This year, besides doing groups and an event at the Metaphysical Chapel of Southern Florida, I also will be doing a one day workshop. I am so looking forward to it. Later, I’ll be returning to Lafayette, Louisiana, and St. Louis for the The Sixth Annual Afterlife Conference. Among my other southern stops, I’ll be returning to the Edgar Cayce Association for Research and Enlightenment in Virginia Beach, Virginia this fall. Northern folks, not to worry as I’ll be back to Cromwell, CT in April, doing a special Mother’s Day event with Thomas John in NYC in May, and returning again to wonderful Canyon Ranch in Lenox, MA in March. Please check my calendar for complete details.

How I love sharing matters of the heart!